Strange behavior…

I am cleaning up my bedroom that currently looks like a poorly organized law office, full of documents, cds, usbs, printouts that are marked up with highlighters and post it notes.  As I go through some of the stuff, I can’t avoid the obvious.  What an unnecessary and vicious attack imposed on my family, especially my child!

I hope some of my observations from pre-kidnapping of my child by the State of Florida are eye-openers for other parents.  Prevention is key.  However, you need awareness first in order to prevent.

Here are some of the things I noticed about my child’s behavior that I think parents/guardians should be on the lookout for.  It’s not stuff the ordinary person walks around knowing since most of us don’t think this can happen to our children:

(The period of time the below behaviors took place in, approx. Jan-July 2009. This occurred before she was removed from my home, and placed to live with the alleged sex offender, a non-relative, in the home he shared with my child’s father.  My child had been spending court-approved overnights with the father hence his contact.)

1) We live in Florida.  In the middle of Summer, insisting on wearing layers and more layers of clothing.

2) Stating, “I’m pushing”, while she is actually holding in her stools.  Saying she is “afraid” of going potty.

3) Urinary Tract Infections.

4) Sexualized behavior you wouldn’t expect a young child to know (i.e. intense kissing, masturbation, attempting to insert objects to genitals-vagina/anus).  Undressing dolls and having their genitals touch in “play”.

5) Violent tantrum outbursts (i.e. drawing “the monster” and stabbing the drawing with the pencil then transferring the anger toward the nearest person).

6) Refusing to be assisted with pull-up cleaning by day school staff, insisting only mother can help.  Stating to cleaning staff and other caregivers “are you going to hurt me?” as indicator of why child refuses help.

7) Sudden behavior change reported by school to you (i.e. biting children, throwing chairs).

8 Suddenly afraid of going to the father’s house (had to literally be buckled down by father when he picked child up for visitation).  At other times, she cried when she stated she did not want to leave school.  Usually on a Friday, when she knew it was time to see “daddy” on Saturday.

9) Sudden increase in clingyness and fear of being anywhere without mother present.  (My child had two violent outbursts at the Broward County Sexual Assault Treatment Center (SATC) , one in which the organization across the street – Broward County’s Children Home Society – had to call the SATC to inquire about “the child screaming” right outside their entrance.  Of course, the SATC did not note this critical example of something that deems more questioning, in spite of the outbursts occurring directly in front of the eyes of Counselor, Emily Lawler and Child Protection Team worker, Lucia Zanabria.)

10) Self depreciative comments: “I am an ugly monster, I am a bad girl, I am dirty, I am sick, you hate me…”

11) Changing clothing/panties every 5 minutes, stating “I’m dirty, I’m dirty”.

12) Sudden regression in potty-training.  I’ve read that children tend to get fully potty-trained at a slower pace in day school/care than children who are being taken care of at home.  But the workers at my daughter’s day school and I worked really well together in trying to get this going.  Who doesn’t want to save the very expensive weekly expense of wipeys and pull-ups, if possible?  So we got my child to work on wearing panties, although with accidents, but making progress.  Why did she all of a sudden regress to her pull-ups?  There were several of us at work with this, yet we couldn’t stop the accidents’ frequency from increasing.

(As of February 2011, pleased to report child is significantly more in control of her anger, thanks to professional therapeutic assistance.  However, there is a lot more time and work needed.)

LMo.

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DCF lost their fabricated case against me; however, the damage has been done.

(This blog is from May 14, 2010 with some edits.) (Please be patient while I learn my way around WordPress.)

I wanted to share some thoughts with you before I fully charge on this project.

In the next few weeks, I will be reviewing and organizing what I believe are the most critical documents presented in my trial. I would like to post them publicly for citizens to review and learn from. I think people will find some common themes in the methods used by the DCF and related agencies to remove children without a significant foundation of facts. Constitutional rights are being violated and no one is exempt from the chances of falling into the dependency trap. I’d like to make these documents available for your review and help provide and an overall reality check on what is truly going on in the dependency court and child welfare system. There is a real-life story that takes place in a period of almost a year, so it will take some time to distribute this information in its most accurate and beneficial form, but it will happen.

I heard from various attorneys the same statement, “once you are caught in the child welfare system, it is hard to get out. I believe my case is unique for the following reason. I was not a parent accused from the get-go. I was a parent who reported a crime, or a “possible” crime, that was not followed through. Then, a completely new fabricated document was creatively developed against me, by the State-contracted workers that I reported to the State of Florida as “non-responsive”. The other aspect of my case that is unique is that the State of Florida placed my child in temporary custody of her father who lives with the person that my child said had hurt her in a sexual manner. This is pure negligence. To this day, the investigating authorities have not criminally interviewed the alleged perpetrator. The courts have put in “protection” clauses into court orders, before and after my trial which are ridiculous given the fact that the child spent almost ten (10) months living in that home with that man. Even now after my trial, my daughter will need to spend (currently) one overnight in that home every other week. Like Tonya Craft, there is still “family” court left to deal with. Unlike criminal and dependency courts, you do not get public counsel. You are left to fend after a traumatic ordeal. Where is the justice in the justice “system”?

The best I can do to heal and cope with the trauma experienced by all my loved ones and dear friends is to be active in getting the word out to you.

More to come…For all children,